TedXTalks – Brene Brown

Brene Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, shame and empathy, doing research on the ways that these feelings manifest themselves onto our outlook on life. One of her main points is that of connection and our need for it. Professor Brown asserts that in order to have connection we must be vulnerable, but that vulnerability can only come from a “wholehearted” perception of our lives. This “wholehearted” perception is associated with our sense of love and belonging, those who carry shame may not be able to achieve this mindset. Professor Brown explains how shame prevents us from sharing with one another in fear that we will no longer be able to connect with them, when in reality we need this sharing to process any “shameful” situation. This can all be directly applied to the art of storytelling, as shame can often effect our perception of where we stand within a personal story, but without shame we are able to view the stories as bigger lessons. We need to shift our perception, we can’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Personal perception when telling a personal story changes everything.

Professor Brown explains that these “wholehearted” people who were able to express vulnerability without shame all had;

“The courage to be imperfect. The compassion to be kind to themselves first. They had connection as result of authenticity. They were able to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were. They embraced vulnerability, they believed that what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful.”

-Rachel Siegel

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2 Responses to TedXTalks – Brene Brown

  1. Jake H. says:

    I really appreciate the points made in this post. I think that vulnerability really does open up new ways of connecting and communicating with people and I picture it allowing someone to find a flow of interaction. By this I mean that their true self can be readily accessed and released in a natural way without obstacles of who they may think they want to be, what may not be appreciated about them by others, or hiding certain parts of who they are or where they’ve been due to shame or fear. This openness and to share and be oneself is like a well-lubricated spout where whatever they choose to share comes out in the true fashion and nature of who they are. I think this really leads to the betterment of storytelling in the way that one can learn about themselves by interacting openly and gaining perspective on who they are and how that can contribute to their style of storytelling, then this knowledge can allow them to find their own flow for the way they put themselves into the telling of the story and I think this allows the stories told by someone whose done this to tell the best stories possible both because they are being real in themselves and they are channeling that through their words and actions and thus making them able to bring their stories to life with that realness.

  2. Megan Saks says:

    Brene Brown has an uncanny ability to view the world around her with clarity and objection. She was able to research abstract emotions, pinpoint their roots, and develop strategies for controlling them in a positive and productive way. I understand the sense of love and belonging that Brown talks about to be a crucial goal in my life and the lives of almost everyone. The way Brown explains that vulnerability is the core of both shame and of courage and joy is beautifully profound. It truly is in moments where I feel vulnerable that I can sense an ebbing decision between embracing who I am and shrinking back to play it safe, but playing it safe isn’t really safe at all. When we perpetually reject ourselves, we are selfishly, unknowingly training ourselves to become something we are not. Brown describes this action as numbing; if we numb sadness then, in turn, we will numb joy. I truly enjoyed this talk and think that it is extremely relevant to every moment, minute, and month of life, and extremely relevant to being a storyteller, being comfortable with yourself and your stories.

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